A calmer way to navigate recurring conflict
Understand your conflict patterns and improve conversations over time.
Deescalator helps couples log difficult moments, spot recurring triggers, and track whether communication is improving.
Built from real experience
Created by a couple who kept having the same argument and wanted a better way to reflect between conversations.
Private by design. You decide what to record and what to share.
How it works
A simple loop: capture, understand, improve.
Log
Capture what happened, what you felt, and how the conversation unfolded.
Analyze
Review trends in timing, triggers, and recurring themes across entries.
Improve
Use insights and AI-assisted summaries to prepare better follow-up conversations.
What you can do today
- Build a shared memory of conflicts instead of relying on stressful recollection.
- Track progress in communication habits week by week.
- Export your own data whenever you want.
Frequently asked questions
Is this therapy?
No. Deescalator is a reflection and tracking tool. It can complement therapy, but does not replace professional care.
Who can see our entries?
Only authenticated users in your account can access your data.
Can we use it in multiple languages?
Yes. The app supports English, French, Spanish, and German.
Is there a free plan?
Yes, Deescalator is currently available at no cost during early access.
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