We love each other... but we keep having the same fight.
Tired of circular arguments that go nowhere? Deescalator helps you break the cycle by tracking patterns in your conflicts and improving how you communicate.
Free during early access
Built by a couple tired of having the same fights.
We created Deescalator after getting stuck in our own recurring argument patterns. Now we use it every week to communicate better.
How it Works
Log
Write down what happened, how you felt, and how you reacted.
Analyze
See patterns and triggers. Get clarity with real data.
Improve
Track progress. Apply small, meaningful changes.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is my data safe?
Yes. Your entries are encrypted and completely private. Nothing is shared with anyone.
Why log fights or conflicts?
Because memory is biased and emotions cloud judgment. Writing things down helps you spot patterns and communicate better.
How much does it cost?
Deescalator is completely free while we're in early access. Help us improve it!
Will this replace therapy or coaching?
No. This is a reflection tool, not therapy. But it can help you prepare for therapy sessions or work on issues between appointments.
Can I export my data?
Yes. Download your logs anytime - it's your data.
Curious to learn more?
Read our blog about conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, and our journey building Deescalator.
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